Everyone deserves a Father

As I look back upon my life I imagine what it would be like to have my biological father still alive. For so many years I tried to remember just one moment with him even if it was just a glimpse of his face but to no avail. He passed on when I was three years old, so I guess that explains why I can't remember anything. I know a lot of people with a similar story. They forever imagine what it would be like to have a father. Unfortunately, we can never turn back the clock of time, so we must move forward. We are all consoled with the fact that we have a heavenly father in whom we place our trust in. God deliberately reviled himself as our father to show us how significant that relationship is. By allowing someone on earth to be our earthly father, he has created an opportunity for that individual to be all that he is in earthly form to the ones who call him father. God has made himself the greatest example of what fatherhood really requires. Our society has conditioned us to believe that being fatherless implies having no living father. Sadly, most families suffer the absence of a father not because he is dead or lives away from the family but he is simply not interested in the affairs of the home and the children's upbringing. With the increasing demand for financial stability in a country where most families lack even the most basic needs, men have shifted their focus to making ends meet to the point that there is little or no time left to develop a meaningful relationship with their children. For instance, a child is sent to the most expensive school in town but the father has never seen his son's school work, even once. I believe fatherhood is beyond being a provider. It is about showing our boys what it means to be a man and treating our little girls as the princesses that they are. It's about commitment and love towards the mother of your children, respect for family time and creation of beautiful childhood memories. Every child deserves beautiful childhood memories with their father. My dear friend once told me that the best gift a parent would ever give to their children is to watch them love their spouse. With fathers who refuse to come home early for family time and have numerous excuses on why they can't be there for their child, we are giving birth to a generation whose boys have no idea what being a father truly looks like let alone what being a man is all about. Our girls have never been privileged to be pampered and called beautiful by their father and have no basis to know what they are truly worth and will continuously settle for less than what they deserve. Growing up I had the privilege of having an earthly father, my uncle who made me feel like his own daughter, encouraged me, disciplined me, provided for me and made me feel special. He was a very kind and generous man; he took care of a lot of other people's children. It takes a strong man to take care of his children but it takes a stronger man to take care of another man's child, like his own no matter the circumstances the child lands into his life.